Nov 10, 2013
The Judgment Recipe
I recently had a “fall out” with a young couple who had been a part of my ministry for almost ten years. They were supporters of The Free Believers Network and had always been reliable and trustworthy friends. These people were solid. We had never once had an argument or even a disagreement. I would never have predicted what was about to take place.
Out of nowhere they cancelled their subscription to the FBN, refused to return my emails and pretty much vanished from my life. I tried contacting them over and over but to no avail. I even contacted the brother of one of them in an effort to at least find out whether or not they were alive and well. The brother casually dropped a comment that made my head spin. He said, “We’ve been hearing things.” When I pressed him as to what things they had “been hearing” he refused to tell me. For some reason he didn’t want to give me a chance to defend myself or answer to whatever charges were being brought against me. I was devastated. My mind was spinning in an effort to figure out what in the world this couple could have heard about me that would cause them to end the relationship like that.
The thing that was so hurtful to me was the fact that they never came to me personally and asked me about whatever it was they had heard. Rather than give me the benefit of the doubt and at least give me the opportunity to defend myself, they chose to just believe what they had been told and went with that. I knew for sure in my heart that if they were to let me know what they heard, it could be cleared up in a matter of minutes. I knew this because I knew I hadn’t done anything worthy of banishment from anyones life. There was no doubt in my mind that this couple had been lied to by someone. Why wouldn’t they just come to me and ask me personally
It was about six months later when I believe God outright told me why they kept the details to themselves. They liked what they heard. They didn’t come to me to allow me a chance to answer these accusations because they knew in their hearts it wasn’t true. They knew I would be able to convince them in a matter of seconds that they had believed a lie, so they avoided me like the plague. This was one of my biggest lessons concerning “judgment.”
Judgment doesn’t ask questions. It determines the answers to all questions before they’re even asked. The spirit of judgment creates an entire story around a person, and then interprets everything the person says or does through the lens of that story. Amazingly, everything makes perfect sense as it is being interpreted. Everything lines up perfectly. The person is presumed guilty until proven innocent. No matter what the person says or does, their words appear as indisputable confirmation that the lies that have been told about them are true on every side.
Being judgmental is more than just talking bad about someone or assuming the worst. It’s more than looking down on a person or defining someone by their actions. When we pass judgment we are actually taking part in one of the most spiritually destructive things possible. I’ve found that the average person has little to no idea how powerful and deep-seated being judgmental really is.
What is judgment? It is one part lie, mixed with one part BELIEVE. The final outcome is so powerfully delusional that even a close family member can be deceived by it. Things go from being one-dimensional and frivolous to becoming an all-out three-dimensional lie in a matter of seconds. It leaves a pile of destroyed lives and reputations in its wake that usually take years to repair. Because it is conceived through the use of BELIEVE it goes from being a mere opinion to becoming a spiritual reality. Anytime “believe” is added to the pot, whether for good or bad, whether right or wrong, whether in truth or in error; it mutates with whatever story it’s attached to and becomes truth for that particular moment in time. “Believe” is that one ingredient that makes anything come alive. It takes a very special and gifted person to see past that lie and detect the real heart of the matter once judgment has been passed.
One reason why I believe we don’t give the act of being judgmental a second thought is because many of us have lost sight of the power of believe. Simply put, we don’t believe there is anything to our “believe.” We’ve become like a child with a loaded shot-gun. We assume that invisible bullets will fly out when we pull the trigger. We don’t really believe there ARE real bullets in our believe. As a consequence we routinely go around shooting people and we wonder why they don’t get up, brush themselves off and keep playing with us.
A person who is judgmental has made a covenant with believe that launches them into a world of deception that appears every bit as real as their hand in front of their face. The “believe” part of their judgment shows them that they’re right in what they are thinking. Why should they change their mind or stop being judgmental?
A person’s believe is never supposed to be fused together with anything but TRUTH.
One of the ways you can tell if you are being judgmental (believing a lie) is by asking yourself how this information initially made you feel. I’ve found that this is one of the only ways a person caught in a world of judgment can see past the lie to which they’ve connected their “believe”. If whatever it is you are believing about a person makes you happy, there’s a good chance that it’s judgment and not truth. When looking through the lens of believe, everything you look at springs to life and it’s almost impossible to decipher truth. The only lens that can counter whatever lies have come to life through believe’s lens is the LENS OF LOVE. I have found that this is the only way you can authentically see the absolute TRUTH about something or someone
I’ve found that people who have plugged their believe into lies about God do the same thing. When a person believes God is angry and violent and they open their bibles, all they see is evidence that supports what they’ve plugged their believe into. Verse after verse reveals an angry god glaring back at them from within the pages. It’s inescapable. They are incapable of seeing or hearing anything beyond what they believe. Even compassionate scriptures seem to have an undertone of hell attached to them. Every nook and cranny of the bible appears to be filled with evidence that supports what lingers in their heart. THAT’S the power of passing judgment.
This is how a radical Muslim can justify detonating a bomb in a cafe filled with innocent men, women and children. He has connected his believe with a lie, and every part of him is convinced that he is on the side of truth; therefore, his actions are holy and true. If he were given a lie detector test and asked whether or not God will reward him for murdering these people, he would say, “absolutely,” and he would pass with flying colors. What is so obviously wrong in the eyes of every thinking human being, has now become right in the eyes of someone who has dared to hitch their BELIEVE to a lie. In a very real way, a judgmental person is a terrorist of sorts.
The offense of passing judgment is not the lie that is believed, but the belief in the lie. When a person’s “believe” is willingly fused together with a lie, they are defiling themselves spiritually. They are making a spiritual bond between themselves and darkness. In effect, they are violating themselves without even knowing it.
Why are Christians so judgmental?
This is a question I have been asked by at least a thousand people over the years. It’s usually the first question anyone asks in reference to “church people.” It seems to have become the Christian stereotype of sorts in our generation. The word “Christian” and “Judgmental” have become synonymous. It’s actually a very good question. How did this happen to us? Why are so many of us this way?
I personally believe that the Christian religion in America is set up to breed judgmental people. That is to say, people who routinely fuse their BELIEVE with lies. It’s not by accident that we do this. People generally don’t do anything unless there is some personal benefit from doing so. I have found that people hitch their believe to lies because it launches them into a world they enjoy. They actually like what it does to them when they believe lies. They experience a high of sorts when the bond between believe and a lie is made. It gives us a cheap thrill. In a very real way it’s like what I call “spiritual masturbation.”
A person’s “believe” is very much like their spiritual reproductive organs. Whatever they plug it into springs to life. A person’s spiritual reproductive organ gives life to that with which it is linked. When believe is placed into something, whether true or not, that thing becomes alive. An outright lie suddenly springs to life and becomes true in the person’s eyes. It’s important to understand that just because something “appears” as truth in a person’s eyes doesn’t mean it IS truth. It’s difficult to tell the difference between TRUTH and a living-lie. Only a heart of love can distinguish the difference!!
I honestly feel that the religion of Christianity has pimped out its people and has addicted them to the thrill of spiritual masturbation. Our spiritual reproductive organ (believe) was designed by God to be fused together with God and people. It is our special way of seeing the invisible. Both God and people are invisible to us. Through believe, however, we are able to see the unseen. We are able to know God and one another through this amazing power. The life in a relationship comes through believe. Believing in the person you are in relationship with is what causes you to see them. In fact, relationship doesn’t even begin until believe is applied. The “knowing” of a person or God simply isn’t possible until believe is detonated. The only thing that should be connected to the lens of believe is LOVE. This is why connecting a lie with believe is so awful.
The problem with religion is that it sends all of our believe in a thousand different directions. We are given a new thing we must “believe” every Sunday. It used to be as simple as believing in God’s one and only Son. Now, however we must believe in every point of doctrine. We’re told to “believe” in the bible or we won’t be saved. We even have to “believe” in Satan and hell, by today’s Christian standards, or we’re not considered Christian. If you’re Pentecostal you have to “believe” in speaking in tongues. If you’re Catholic you have to “Believe” in the Sacraments. If you’re Baptist you must “believe” in eternal security, and so on. Every week we’re confronted with another thing we must apply our believe to in order to be a Christian. It seems that in most Christian circles today, if you don’t “believe” the exact same way everyone else does, you’ll be banished. Entire denominations are formed based on people’s believe. We segregate ourselves and seclude ourselves from one another based on what we believe. We only allow ourselves to associate with people who have the same beliefs as we do. Anyone who doesn’t share our beliefs is a threat. We’ll have nothing to do with them.
Christians today remind me of a humping dog looking for anything to mount. We go from meeting to meeting, conference to conference, service to service desperately looking for something to place our believe in. This spiritually toxic environment has bred a generation of people who haphazardly fuse their believe to anything that moves in an effort to see SOMETHING come to life. Rather than reserve their believe for the things it was intended for, they put it in anything they can find.
I find that most Christians are lost and without direction because the one thing their believe was designed to be linked to is not something they’ve experienced in their entire lives - LOVE. When the very component meant for “believe” is taken out of the equation, people are left plugging away, looking for anything that fits. Unfortunately it ends up being lies, because they’re readily available.
We’ve been conditioned to be judgmental. It’s no wonder passing judgment is second nature to us. We spent a lifetime doing judgmental calisthenics.
I can always tell when “judgmental” has visited one of my friends. There’s a certain look that people get in their eyes when you see them after they’ve swallowed a lie about you. It’s like you can see the story alive within them. They have a “poisoned look” in their eyes where you can tell they’ve been talking. In their eyes there is an entire world that’s buzzing with life and they’ve made decisions about you that cannot and will not be changed.
People wonder why their friends refuse to directly confront them about the things that were told them about you, but the reason they don’t is because they know in their heart that confronting that person could put an end to the world of lies they’ve built. In other words, they don’t investigate the facts because they like the way it makes them feel and they know they wouldn’t get to continue gratifying themselves with that lie once they were faced with the truth. Therein lies ”Judgmental’s” power source.
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