SicknTired wrote:I am here because I no longer know what I believe, nor where to go.
Hi SicknTired! We’re all still processing what we believe. I think it’s an ongoing journey to discover truth. When we first enter this journey especially after having been part of a controlling group as you have been, confusion is a normal state. However, as your mind begins to clear, the confusion should lessen.
SicknTired wrote:don't you think that the people involved would try to work things out, instead of controlling/shunning/denying/scapegoating me?
Sadly, that rarely happens in abusive groups. Insecure leadership does all it can do to control and manipulate its members and those who question will be “punished”
in order to bring them into submission. Unfortunately, that seems to have been what you’ve experienced. As you’ve discovered, sometimes the best answer is to stop going to church and many of us on this board have taken that route.
I have a blog set up that’s devoted solely to the topic of spiritual abuse. I haven’t kept it up to date but there are some great resources on it that you might find helpful. No need to post a comment there. If you have a question, you can always private message me here. The link to that blog is:
This is a closed board so only members can read what’s posted here and we would hope that all members know that in order to protect everyone’s privacy, they are not to share what’s been posted here with non-members. However, just post what you feel comfortable posting.
So, where do currently traumatized people BEGIN on here? The plethora of pages is quite daunting.
This board is divided into 6 forums with different emphases. Although there’s often some overlap, I would suggest that you begin with the “Discussing the Journey”
and the “Into the Wild”
forums. You would probably find these to be the most helpful at this present time. Don't feel like you have to read everything posted there. Use the title and the initial post to determine if it's something you need to read. If it isn't, it's okay to pass it up and move on to something else.
While we’re not set up to do counseling nor are we qualified, we are willing to encourage you as much as we can. If you want to private message any of us feel free but, if you’d like more in depth counseling, I would suggest that you contact Darin Hufford, the owner of this forum. As a former pastor, he’s counseled many and he would be better qualified to discussion your issues in greater depth. His contact information can be found on the home page of this website.
We’re glad you’re here and hope you’ll find your participation here helpful.
Welcome to the Forum!!!!